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The Worst Advice We've Ever Heard About meditation techniques

The thing about meditation is that you become more and more YOU. – David Lynch

Let me explain why I thought of writing this post about meditation techniques. I grew up in a very traditional orthodox family in India. During my childhood, pressure of following traditional rituals was so much that I actually started hating that environment and as soon as I left home, I almost rebelled against that orthodox Hindu environment. I declared myself as an atheist and lived with my new belief system for more than 15 years. As I grew older, I started realizing that actually I am not what I am trying to project myself. I was aMeditation Techniques deeply spiritual person but by declaring myself as an atheist, I was trying to take my revenge towards a society which was imposing their ideas and beliefs on me whether I like it or not. The system was such that if you agree with them, you are a good boy and if you do not agree with them, you are a bad boy. During my teen years, I lived with that guilt throughout that I am not a good boy. Fortunately, I got hold of a few very good books which changed my life forever. I read almost all the books by Deepak Chopra, "Same Soul Many Bodies" by Dr Brian Weiss, "Home with God" by Neale Walsh etc. All these books helped me understand myself and get rid of all negative energies that I was living with. I learn t how to think spiritually and truthfully without following any religion. And that is how I wanted to live since my childhood. I respect all religion, but I refuse to be a salesman of any religion. I wanted to think about cosmic structure and principles instead of following religious rituals. Topic of soul body integration introduced me to the world of meditation. I was too satisfied with newly found interests and instead of following spirituality as a boring subject or process, I started finding it as a real cosmic adventure.

Today, many options are available to learn the art of meditation and I have tried a few of them. Every style has its own positive points but it all depends on you what satisfies you the most.

Deepak Chopra has given a new dimension to meditation techniques and spirituality. May be in my case, I showed more interest to what he says because; I was able to relate with his style of liberal philosophies better than a religious preacher. He always backed up his spiritual principles with scientific theories. Deepak Chopra gives too much importance to the audio-visual frequencies around us and he says these frequencies have power to alter our state of consciousness. Meditation has capability to elevate our level of consciousness from being conscious to subconscious and then to super conscious. I have followed Deepak Chopra's style of meditation in the past where he gives too importance to lighting condition of the place of meditation and the vibrations that are created in the atmosphere by speaking a few Sanskrit mantras. I found this style very very useful and works really well specially if you are using meditation as a tool for your stress management. It really works. This was all going OK when Deepak Chopra came out with a new product "Dream Weaver" and for me it surpassed all my expectations. It is a mind boggling product and you really have to use it to understand what I am trying to say. It is very difficult to express in words, the state of mind that this product creates.

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Basic principle of this product is same that audio-video frequencies around us have power to alter our level of consciousness. This time, Deepak Chopra has taken the help of electronic gadgets to induce these frequencies in our minds. If nothing else, you will at least feel relaxed as soon as you start using it. This product is a real game changer and it has completely changed the concept of meditation techniques.

Bramh Kumaris Raj Yoga:

I completed one week Raj Yoga free course and loved the experience. I came to know about them accidentally. I read in one of our local newspapers that St. James theater is showing a free one hour movie on the concept of "time". I went to the theater and there you had to write your details before you enter the theater. As soon as I wrote my address, the lady exclaimed! Oh you are our neighbor. I did not know but Bramha Kumari's meditation center was at one of the houses on our street which was a few blocks from our house. So, I

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decided to enroll for their free meditation course. I liked their style of meditation and sermons. It is one of those places where you realize beauty in simplicity. Their style of meditation is emptying your mind from all kind of thoughts. It is a bit difficult to do but you improve with regular practice and feel better and more peaceful every time you do it. The teachers there are full of compassion in their approach and you feel good just for being there.

My Very Own Meditation Technique:

Earlier I had stated that I take meditation and spirituality as cosmic adventure and that is why in addition to following meditation techniques experts, I keep experimenting with my own ideas as well. At times I get mind blowing results. Here I am sharing one of my techniques which have given very productive results for me. I have named this meditation technique "Meditate by letting your imagination go wild".Let imagination go wild

Our thoughts, fantasies and imaginations are restricted by laws of physics, our brain's social conditioning, religious conditioning etc. as we have been always taught these facts and hence our brain gets conditioned to restrictions. Not only laws of physics but the cause and effect theory also restrict our imagination. We need to train our brain to take that flight of imagination unrestricted by scientific laws known to us. We all know, the outcome of our efforts is never proportional to the efforts that we put in. Life will be too boring and easy if you are sure that if you do this, the result will be this. All our efforts are being controlled by an unknown source and by an unknown logic. We can never ever quantify the effort of a person from all logical point of views i.e. intelligence, logic applied and amount of effort put in.

So, one day I decided to let my imagination go wild irrespective of any logic. I still remember, I was sitting at a secluded beach in Wellington and sun was setting in. I closed my eyes and let my brain go wild all out. Within minutes, I was imagining myself flying in the sky with full speed without my body. It was as if my soul is out and is traveling in the space. I was moving away from the earth. I was in the middle of the universe and was watching the earth below. The whole sky was dark and the twinkling stars were giving the whole scene an amazing beauty. I moved towards the Milky Way. I had that sense of freedom where no force is imposing any control over me. I was in complete control of myself. I felt very light like a snowflake. I am giving my experience only as an example. You are free to choose any type of imagination. Beauty of this kind of meditation is that you can be very creative. Unlike other meditation techniques where you put an effort to block any thought intruding your mind, here you become a part of thoughtlessness. Instead of putting an effort to stop the external intruding thoughts, here you create your own internal thought process which automatically stops the external thought. I have been doing it for a few months now and I am sure if you do it for 20 minutes every day, you will see the difference in your personality. You will not only enjoy those 20 minutes but it will become a perfect way to lower your day to day stress.

Overall the whole exercise is very enjoyable. Try it out and let me know whether it created any difference in your life.

And finally, watch this video to improve whatever meditation techniques you follow.

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People Pleaser Personality Disorder

"The spiritual message is we lose our lives in pleasing others; We become people pleaser. if you're the good child who pleases Mommy and Daddy but internalizes anger, you're setting yourself up for disease:

-Bernie Siegel

That's why you need to escape people pleaser trap.

I think most of us would be surprised to find that we go to great lengths to please people around us. We will all constantly deny it, stating that we are independent and can think for ourselves but at the end of the day the sad truth is that even the most intelligent and head strong members of society can fall into the trap of being people pleaser.

People Pleaser

Have you ever thought what happens to your personality when you keep putting efforts to please others? You no longer be yourself but start living as somebody else and that is too dangerous a situation to be in. You may be able to make somebody happy by being not you, but what happens to your own pleasures. You sabotage your own happiness in order to please others. And do you know why you are doing that? Just to massage your own ego. And when you try to do that, you are never ever able to look within, the most important process to understand yourself. Your attention is always outward. This is how you degrade yourself spiritually.

Being people pleaser, not only affect your peace and happiness but it starts affecting your job, business and other worldly affairs. I know, when I was a chronic people pleaser, I always prioritize my daily schedule wrongly. And I didn't do it deliberately but subconsciously. I used to make my schedule to please people and not to suit the interest of my business. This is how you degrade yourself in your worldy affairs. Once I came out of the people pleaser trap, immediately my business skyrocketed to a different level.

People pleaser

Have you ever thought how you become people pleaser? Mostly your brain is conditioned to this people pleasing decease during your childhood. First, within the family many parents subconsciously impose on their children that it is their duty to please mom and dad. Instead of creating the flower of love in the hearts of small kids, they come out with the disciplinarian attitude that kids are supposed to please them. If that is not enough, I have seen in many families where the child is encouraged to please any successful relative or an influential friend and I don't understand why?

I’m not saying that it is bad not to go out of your way to help someone but I believe we must have a strong sense of personal identity before we mindlessly just follow the demands of somebody else. So next time someone asks you for help, ask yourself if you are doing it out of fear, or just to please him or really you want to do it because YOU are really going to be happy once you do this. You should never do anything just to make somebody happy unless you yourself gain anything out of it. And that anything can be really anything. It may be financial profit, your happiness, your spiritual fulfillment or any dam thing. Stick to your gut and don’t deviate from your values. Follow this and you will always find yourself with spiritual and worldly abundance.


The starting point of all achievement is desire. -Napoleon Hill

Key To Success:

This is my personal experience. Most of the times we sabotage our  success by lying about our self to our self. Isn't so awkward and shocking? But it is true. And I don't know why we do it. So after all what is the Key to Success? Do we think that we are not yet ready for a huge success and hence we our self become an obstruction to our own success. Or we start thinking that this success looks to be too good to be true? So somehow we deliberately generate these negative thoughts to avoid our success.

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Following are the three deep negative thoughts that you get immersed in, in order to avoid success.

  1. I don't know where to begin: Well, nobody knows where to begin. Bill Gates never had a step by step plan before he established Microsoft. An idea came in a flash of a moment and he just begun. Instead of keeping the idea within himself and keep thinking about it, he took action. Waiting for perfecting the idea before implementing it, is known as being creatively constipated. You get an idea, start working on it and then keep improving as you go further towards your goal.
  2. I don't have enough money: Luckily, we belong to an era where any "New Idea" has a propensity to hit a gold mine. Getting and implementing an innovative idea is key to success. Take the case of Uber. It was just an idea. Owner of Uber has no cabs, no drivers and no infrastructure. Gone are the days when any New Startup required huge amount of money. Beside this, Most of the millionaires were born like very average people. When you take action, When you want something very badly and your intention has clarity, the whole universe conspires to make it happen.
  3. I can't do it all by myself: Very few people are lucky enough to get a right mentor at the right time. But think  about it, if your idea is very non conventional but too creative, you are the best person to implement it. However, you can read books closely suitable to your idea  and hypothetically make the author or a character of the  book your mentor. I am sure you can get guidance through this character as and when required.

However, Experts have found one fact. All the people who turned their passion / dream into a great success, had one common factor and it was not "Hard Work". They all share a  little known secret about their brain. And that is the main key to success.

If you are interested watch this presentation to know that any Tom, Dick and Harry can use this secret to turn you dream into reality.

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“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”
Robert Bryne

I just finished reading Dr. Brian L Weiss's book "Same Soul Many Masters". What an incredible book! Just by reading it, my mind, brain, heart and soul, all were at peace at least for a week. Book is all about our life purpose. Our life is not just an
accident. Dr. Brian L Weiss has beautifully narrated Life Purposewhy every person who comes to this earth, comes to learn what he could not learn in his previous birth. That is why, all of us are unique and our lives are so different from each other. Life is simple but we insist to complicate it by trying to be somebody else rather than be ourselves. Your reason to come to this earth is entirely different from mine. I have come here to learn something different from you and so even if I try to copy every single act of yours, my end result will be different because the universe will create different circumstances for me so that I could learn what I could not learn in my previous life.

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But, my reason to write this post was not to review "Same Soul Many Masters". My reason to write this post was, to try to know whether it is really possible to find our life purpose by reviewing the trends of our first twenty, forty or more numbers of years of our lives. Then I thought, why don't I begin by reviewing my own life and try to find what I have come to learn in my present incarnation.


It was not easy. Once you start thinking about your life, you are not able to find any weaknesses in your personality. Every problem that you come across looks to be the result of somebody Else's trick or bad action or behavior. Then, I explored further, explaining to myself that I am doing this exercise to improve my own life. I have to crush my ego if I have to really learn my life purpose. I don't need to justify the reasons for my defeats to anybody. So, with my newly found knowledge, I again did the same exercise of rewinding my life to find any traces of certain trends which may give some clues about my life purpose. First thing that came to mind was a tendency to procrastinate. But it was too general a term to throw any light on something as specific as life purpose. I drilled in further. After all there must be some reason for procrastination as far as most of my actions are concerned. Then, I focused more to find  under what kind of circumstances I tend to procrastinate? I normally have tendency to procrastinate when I have to implement my own idea or when I need to do something because I want to do it. I never ever procrastinate when somebody else tells me to do something. And that was my eureka moment. I  never ever able to keep my life under my control. My life purpose is to learn to be in control and give direction to my life. And that is why, since childhood, I had  always been surrounded by people who wanted to control me. There were always people who wanted to direct me. And it looked that my life mission was to follow orders. They wanted me to think in a certain way, they wanted me to do certain things, they wanted me to follow certain religion or cult. And like a dumb person, I was doing all I was asked to do. The universe was deliberately creating these circumstances so that I could learn to be in control. There used to be vacuum when nobody was telling me to do anything and then only I normally procrastinate.

It took me 54 years to find my life purpose. Just imagine, how different my life would have been if I had found my life purpose at the age of 20 or earlier? So guys, my purpose to write this post is, you think now, check various repetitive trends in your life, analyze it and I am sure you will be able to find your life purpose.